Often (but not always) it is a response to anger that brings a couple to us. Behind that anger there is usually a complex of emotions to unpack that can include: resentment, frustration, fear, anxiety, pain, hurt, and shame, among others. The work always involves looking behind the anger to find and deal with what we call primary emotions. This needs to be done by each partner, so that each person can be responsible for their part in the dynamic.
Frequently there is also a series of unresolved issues, which have accumulated over the years, sometimes over generations, that get expressed through anger. We help people explore these issues and address them in a respectful and constructive way.
Some of our work with couples is related to anger issues, but it does not have to be. We have many years of experience working to help couples find ways to reconnect and resolve their differences, deepen their bond and grow together, or clarify if they need to separate, how they can do so in a caring and respectful way.
Our approach assumes that both partners have their own experience and hold valuable input into the dynamics of the relationship. In our sessions, we will help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner and the dynamics between the two of you. We will help you use this understanding to resolve conflicts more skillfully, so that love and intimacy can be more present in your life.
Our 1.5 hour couples sessions cost:
- $250 with Associates
- $345 with Senior Associates
- $475 with Alejandra Proaño or Alistair Moes
Our 1 hour couples sessions cost:
- $225 with Associates
- $255 with Senior Associates
- $325 with Alejandra Proaño or Alistair Moes
All prices include taxes. Add a one time $30 fee for a copy of our men’s or women’s book, plus $5.75 for postage if the sessions are online.
This has benefited me so much because I have learned to listen to my partner. I used to think that this cycle of anger would never end. The abused becomes the abuser... but I am ready to end it and become a better father and a better husband.
Taking Alistair's course has allowed me to resurrect my marriage. The key thing is that he will not eliminate your anger, but teach you how to manage it and how to handle stressful situations with your partner. I am now feeling more comfortable on the probability of saving my marriage.
It has helped me in every situation that has occurred since we had class, I recognize the steps and I resolve my situations intelligently.
I understand now that nothing comes from staying in the situation and being angry. I recognize the steps towards anger and I use precautions, it has lowered my stress as it's much easier to become happy again.
I have endured some pretty crazy situations and I have chosen my happiness when I could've lowered myself and chosen the path of sadness and destruction.
Thank you, you have given me tools to add to my belt and take control of my life.
I understand my anger way better than before and therefore have a much better idea of what is underneath it and how to manage it.
I felt very comfortable in the office, very relaxed, and always able to express my honesty without fear or shame. Alistair is very easy to talk to, and I felt a rapport with him right way.
The most important thing that I've learned is awareness. The ability to control my emotions, and the environment around them, simply by being aware. Coming to these sessions has increased my ability to focus on the bigger picture, and what is truly important in life.
I got a shitload of new tools and ideas. Plus, I got to meet some really great people.