Anxiety can be debilitating. It can be excruciating physically, mentally, and emotionally. It often makes us feel like it’s the end of the world. In other words, we lose perspective. Anxiety sits uncomfortably in our belly, sternum, and chest, forehead, or inhabits other body parts, usually related to our unique history. Usually after even the first session of our (anger management) group or individual sessions people report feeling better, less reactive, and more intentional with their thoughts and in their actions.
When people experience too much anxiety they often experience some or most of the following:
- Headaches, often in the forehead or temples,
- dry mouth,
- Tension in the chest, shoulders and neck.
- Clenching of the jaw,
- Itchy body, heart beating faster and stronger,
- Breathing becomes more shallow, or unwittingly holding the breath between breaths,
- Nail biting, fidgety,
- Frequent urination or diarrhea, stomach discomfort/pain
- Tense or “anxious” legs and fidgety feet
- Racing thoughts
- Thinking people are judging
- Trouble getting to sleep, or staying asleep
Our breathing often changes when anxiety is present. The body senses that things aren’t safe, untrustworthy, or dangerous when it shows up. Anxiety may have been a lifesaver to our ancient ancestors living in caves. Today, of course, the life-threatening events that may have been present for our cave-dwelling ancestors are generally not there. Regardless, our bodies respond to some situations as if we are in an untrustworthy or dangerous environment. The body doesn’t always notice the difference between physical and emotional distress, instead, it responds with a fight, flight, freeze or fawn response, even when there is no apparent, physical, or “real” threat. If you are interested in deepening your understanding of your anxiety, and changing how it impacts your life, read on.
It is not unusual that depression, anger and resentment coexist when anxiety is present. Whether you express your difficult emotions like frustration and disappointment outwardly or bottle them up, they usually find a way to slip out at the worst moments. Yet, we all carry anxiety within us. Here, at Moose Anger Management, we will help you change your relationship with this sometimes debilitating and overwhelming experience.
Anxiety has an impact on how we think, feel and act. Fear is an intense response to danger, but anxiety is an emotional response to things that may or may not happen. We all have some anxiety, but when it is too strong, it can prevent us from fully being ourselves or enjoying our life to the fullest. Addressing anxiety allows us to be true to our values and who we are.
We can work with your anxiety in the present and over your lifetime history. Stress and anxiety can be situational, and often, when we speak with people about it, they acknowledge that their caregivers also held anxiety within them. Sometimes specific events worsen anxiety, and other times it builds up silently and slowly over a long period. Each person’s relation to fear and anxiety is unique. Therefore, we honour each person’s unique experience of anxiety and, with compassion and curiosity, create a path to transform it into growth and wisdom.
For more in depth help that is tailored to your particular personality and life circumstances, please follow up with me here at Moose Anger Management. Ask for Durwin or check out one of our other counsellors here.