Evolutionary Men: What’s the Emotional Age of Your Anger?

Anger is often described as something that simply happens to us, but there is much more taking place beneath the surface. In this conversation, Alistair Moes explores what happens in the body and mind when anger takes over, and why our responses to conflict can look so different. Some people express anger through explosive reactions, while others shut down, withdraw, or convince themselves that avoiding the situation is a way of handling it. This podcast explores the emotional age of your anger.

The discussion also looks at how our earliest relationships and family environments can shape the ways we respond to anger as adults. These patterns can become so familiar that we may not even recognize when they are influencing our behaviour.

A central theme of the conversation is learning to approach conflict from the grounded, adult part of ourselves rather than reacting from the wounded or frightened child within us. Alistair explains how becoming aware of these patterns can help us recognize who is actually “in control” when anger surfaces—and create an opportunity to respond with greater awareness, choice, and emotional maturity.